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When do you say you are sorry?

06/01/2011 08:41:00

I often wonder when do you say you are sorry to someone? So many have been trying to answer this question but few know the answer. See we all fall short and really don't mean what we say but sometimes people take what we say literally. Sometimes enough is enough and remember the old saying that if you don't stand up for yourself who else will. I have personally been through this for years wondering when to say no or enough is enough. See we sometimes do things we don't want to do but we do it anyway because of that other person and then you still hurt that person anyway. I'm writing this to you guys because many deal with this and don't know how to handle it like myself. Sure you try to look into the future and see all the wonderful things that could happen and then you come back to reality, that it's always going to be this way. Remember this saying the more you try to help someone the more you are creating problems for yourself. See I'm not in any way a selfish person but sometimes you have to make tough decisions and put yourself before others and deal with the circumstances taht could follow. Now you might not want to hear or know this but sometimes what you say could affect you for the rest of your life. I often wonder why my life is the way it is maybe because I love being alone sometimes or maybe because I have been used by family members and enough is enough. Sure I hate saying that especially to those who you care for but it needs to be said. I have been this way most of my life never being able to say no to anyone and you look up you have nothing and hurt in the end. Always wanting to lend a hand and try to save someone or make someone life easier and you look up you are on the outside looking in.

Now we need to deal with when do you say you are sorry or do you even say sorry in the first place. Are you wrong for trying to do the right thing and in the process you had to hurt someone feelings in the first place. If you think back into your life would you change a decision you made knowing you made the right decision for everyone? Sometimes things don't always go your way or the way you planned it. Sure before making a decision you think it through playing it in your mind a thousand times hoping that it would go a certain way but when it time to say something it goes totally wrong. So do you say I'm sorry the way it came out or do you just say I'm sorry. Maybe you aren't sorry for the outcome but you are sorry how it came out or the way you said it. Let me give you a word of advice (Please Please) watch what you say and how you say it because you could hurt someone feelings just because you are trying to help someone. Life is funny and it gives you all tpyes of turns but the only thing is you have to ready for the outcome and hold on tight or you will be just saying sorry for nothing.

bers and enough is enough. Sure I hate saying that especially to those who you care for but it needs to be said...

"Hump Day Wednesday"

05/04/2011 07:53:00

Well Morning All,

Well today is a rainy day in Washington DC and it happens to be Wednesday what we call Hump Day. I guess they call it hump day because we are finally in the middle of the week after dealing with Monday and Tuesday. Well the dictionary defines "Hump Day" as the middle of a work week (Wednesday); used in the context of climbing a proverbial hill to get through a tough week. So what does that mean to me well it's almost friday... So anyway what does today bring for so many. Well after looking at the news this morning it seems to me the focus has shifted from killing Bin Laden to seeing pictures of his body. So many people have called out to the White House Authorities to release his pictures. This is absolutely crazy. We speak about being non- violent and teaching our kids the same and then you look up and we are asking to see the pain and death of another human being. Well for all of us as we know in another month or so we will totally forget all about this story and move on to the next one. That just happens to be the way that we are taught and it's such a shame. But what about those victims that died on that day in September. How do they live with the pain or hurt of a love one that they lost. Well the Bible teaches us that one day death and pain will be no more. So I indeed look forward to that day. Even though we know what the bible teaches us it seems to be so far away but the bible also teaches us to be faithful for that day will come. In 1John 1:9 it speaks about us being faithful and confessing our sins. So who does this apply to. Does it apply to a certain class of people or a certain religion. Well it states "Whomever confess his sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness". So see this applies to everyone for the God we serve is a righteous and forgiving God. I know I may have gotten off the subject a bit but I wanted to share with you how we can come to him and ask for forgiveness. Many times we are so quick to judge but forget who is the ones that is doing the judging. I take myself for example I many times find myself judging others on how they should live their lives or how people should do certain things but we all fall short of God's glory. And I continue to pray that he helps me become a better person and not judge others but worry about my own life. So see we all have something to work on but isn't it amazing that we get to talk to God any time in prayer and ask him for his guideness and forgiveness. So just think about this for a moment as you lay back and focus on "Hump Day" and what Wednesday will bring. Take a moment and realize how fortunate we are to serve a God who forgives and who is loving no matter what walk of life or where we come from. He hears all prayers even on HUMP DAY!!!

Monday May 2,2011 Great News for America?

05/02/2011 09:37:00

Morning All,

Well I woke up late last night to hear the news that Bin Laden had been capture and killed. This is indeed great news but after the essential shock I started to think should we glorify a humans death. Sure this man is a monster because of the hurt that he have caused so many Americas but should I be joyful of a humans death. Well my thoughts might be different from yours but I'm often reminded that only God judges people. Now I don't want to get to Churchie on you if that's a word but we need to be careful of what we think is correct in man's eyes. Now should the ones that caused us so much hurt and harm be happy for what they did. They believe that they did this as a service to the God they serve, so should we look at them differently. No matter what I believe things do happen for a reason and he takes care of things in due time. Now for all of us as Americans we do have to feel a little safer but we have to remember not to let our guards down because of the threat that Bin Laden followers will try to force on us as Americans. So today as you reflect on the past event of Sept 11th and today just think that another life was taken away no matter who it was and pray that one day we won't have to live in a violent world but one day have peace on earth forever. Now ask yourself is this a "Great News For Americans" and how do you think God views what happen!!

Welcome Saturday Morning Finally

04/30/2011 11:33:00

Well after the day I had yesterday I certainly couldn't wait until today. I went out with family last night to dinner and enjoyed myself. I got to sit back and enjoy myself and watch some games and have some fun after a long week. During my time sitting and having Dinner I mind wandered a little as I thought about all the things I needed to do leading up to the next couple of weeks. In June we have a Basketball Tournament that I need to prepare for. I'm also preparing for a move to Georgetown, Washington DC in the next week or so. I'm also in the process of finishing up my two books for Growing Up A Witness Part 2 and Serving God As A Man Part 1. I certainly enjoy my weekend but I often think like many that they are entirely too short but what can you do about it. I always think that life is too short so try to enjoy and do everything you can to live your life to he fullest. Often many look up and their life has passed them by and no one wants that. Today like most days I wake up a think of my mom. I'm so excited for my mom cause she is getting a chance o live her life without anyone of forcing her to do things that she doesn't want to do. My mom had a difficult life but she came out and became a faithful and devoted servant of God and thats what she wanted. My hopes is that one day we could repair our relationship and just become a mother and child and not worry so much about the past and of course the religion and what it has done to me so we will see. I do wish the best for my mom and I love hearing she is doing well. I order to move forward in your life we need to learn forgiveness so thats my thoughts for today and the weekend FORGIVENESS. So please leave your comments or thoughts about how you move forward and forgive those who have hurt you. Also think about this maybe that person is sure they even hurt you so how do you live with that. Now lets talk about Forgiveness and how do we forgive...

Welcome to "Growing Up A Witness"

04/28/2011 19:53:00

Welcome to my new blog for "Growing Up A Witness". This is certainly an enjoyable time for me because I get to share my views about my books and answer so many questions that many may have. I plan on sharing my thoughts and ideas and look forward to you doing the same. So stay tune and hold on tight as the ride begins. Now lets get to our first subject on how domestic violence affects children.

How are children affected by domestic violence? Have you ever wonder how domestic violence continue from one generation after another. Well take myself as a example. I grew up in a abusive home for years and how did it affect me. Well I'm 40 years old and even though I'm not abusive with my mate what I saw affected me for some time. To this day I still struggle time to time and pray certtainly helps. Now what about you. Has what you seen as a child affected your future. Well let me hear from you.

Welcome to Growing Up A Witness

04/28/2011 08:45:00